Hi there, my name is Stacey, I am a mother, a health coach and I am passionate about mothers’ health and wellbeing.
I have created this blog because I wanted there to be a gorgeous space, just for mothers, where you can come to where you feel supported, inspired, courageous and positive about life. A place where you are reminded that even though you are a mother you are still a beautiful, ambitious, courageous, young woman and you don’t have to forget about her along the motherhood journey, you just have to figure out different ways to embrace her!
Welcome to Spirited Mother!
Having my daughter and becoming a mother is the best thing that ever happened to me, sure it has been rough at times, but it is all so worth!
But about a year after my daughter was born I got sick. I was waking up every day with nausea and it followed me throughout the day. So I started doing what anybody else does when they are sick, I went to my doctor to find out what was wrong with me. From there I went to several doctors, specialists, acupuncturists, healers, naturopaths, you name it, I saw them but after dozens of medications, I was still sick!
I remember at one point not being able to get out of bed for 4 months, it was a struggle to make my daughter breakfast. I didn’t realise at the time but I was so down from being sick every day that I was depressed. Yet even then it took me months of been bedridden and me breaking down in the doctor’s surgery for them to say “maybe you need to get some antidepressants, I think you are suffering from depression”.
So after 2.5 years of searching, I finally realized that I didn’t have a physical disease, I was unhappy!
You see nothing in my life was bad, sure I lived miles away from my loved ones with a little one but I had a great husband, his business was going well and I loved my daughter more than anything, life was pretty good compared to others. However there were things in life I wanted to change and after getting up and ignoring that every single day, my body decided to give up on me……”hello, you are not listening, so I am going to start breaking down”.
Who ever knew that something like that, your thoughts, could make you physically unwell! I didn’t!
Before kids, before a husband, if I was unhappy about something in my life or I wanted to do something, I would work hard and do it! But now life was different, I had other people to think about and for some reason (as a new mother), I was putting their needs first and completely ignoring my own …..mother’s guilt! I felt selfish to even think about the personal things I wanted in life and no one made me feel this way, it was all my own doing!
My confidence, my courage had vanished and fear had entered my life on a big scale.
What did I want……why did I want anything more than what I had….what was wrong with me….what selfish person I must be to want more in life!
Who was I….did I now only belong to “the mum’s group in the world…..had I instantly aged 10 years……..could I still wear young single woman clothes…..go see music…..did the world see me differently now that I was a mother?
Was I a good friend/mother/partner/person anymore?
And so after my health took a downward spiral, my journey began!
I do want to say, that I do not confess for one minute of “having it all together”, god no, I am still learning, I’m still on my own personal journey. But I have learned a few things along the way and if Spirited Mother can help mothers realize that they are not alone in this, that their health and what they want does matter, then it’s a success!
We are young, beautiful, courageous woman, who just happen to have little gorgeous people in our lives, and sometimes we need to be reminded that on daily basis!
I hope you love Spirited Mother and it brings some sunshine to your day!